Optionalities

Introduction

You can lead a horse to water..but.. Only one of my dad's sayings that has lots of implication. For example, people you grew up with you wouldn't believe they are the same person you used to relate to!

How do you get through life by being flexible & resilient, knowing change is inevitable,most everything is made up. knowing that most of your practical education will never come from school but life experiences and "chance"  lessons It will be lucky for you if you have good mentors and the tools that will go with it. Different kinds of friends will help you resolve issues when friends come and go in your life! (jan 7 2024 test insert)

AXIOMS

Axioms will be included

Examples the magic magnifying mind, being of maximum service to others, This too shall pass, acceptance is the key.

Acceptance is one of the hardest things when you learn things about yourself and the influence either from DNA or environment from your mom or dad or siblings.

Realizing that we're all on the same boat like we're all on the Titanic switching seats sometimes gives comfort. also realizing no one gets through life without the helpfulness of other people which is a dual sided sword because some people become outright enemies and not passive responders!

 80/20 rule & more

Phases of life will be addressed in this book as well including the narrowing of friends as one ages (death or separate paths) Also a section on debunked myths which lead to the saying "the more things change the more things stay the same".

One mythic example you will see is (the myth of downsizing) if you plan on retiring and moving to a condo the management you were a slave to when you were employed is now "the HOA" , sometimes with worse politics and outcomes. And unlike work where you were like a paid prostitute (but at least you were getting compensated for the suffering unlike "the condo association" , getting paid half as much as you were worth while the company or organization takes the other half not just for administrative overhead but for profit or for power which leads to another myth of "fair pay") And unbelievably, some of these myths work in hand in hand; example, the myth of fair pay often attracts people who are not as dedicated or willing to put out the work that it requires to be self-employed Some be coming out-right lazy and deadwood in "the company". (One of the applications of the 80/20 rule, 80% of the work done by 20% of the people or the last 20% of the work takes 80% of the resources!)

And because of our hard wiring we tend to defy logic because everything is made up and all that counts is the story. Logic is most often overruled by about 200 cognitive distortions and we don't even know it!